So, I’m trying to finalize our guest list so that I can start gathering addresses and getting organized, but it’s such a hassle! Our venue is small–AT MOST we can have 144 people. Initially I thought this was fine, because 120 was our target anyways (for budgetary reasons, and when FH and I went through our friends and family, this is what we came up with).
Enter the Momster…
My Mother had a much different guest list in mind. She had people on her list who I haven’t talked to in years (my old boss from my high school/college job is a good example). She also had a lot more of her and my Dad’s friends on there than I had planned for. That ballooned the list to 161, even with me cutting some of the more ridiculous suggestions from her list.
Enter the Grandmomster… My Grandma is now insisting that all of her siblings get invited (and of course then I have to invite their spouses!). She is one of 12 kids. Not all of them are alive now, but that would still be a huge number to add. When I mentioned this to my Grandma, she said “Oh just invite them, they won’t come anyways”. When I told her I don’t want to invite more people than the venue can hold she came up with an EVEN WORSE idea–she wants to throw me a shower and invite all her sisters, even though I most likely won’t be inviting them to the wedding. Such bad manners. I refuse to have a shower with people who aren’t invited to the wedding.
So yeah, this is how my month has been going. I still need to cut people from my list (I know not everyone will come, but it makes me too nervous inviting more than the total number we can hold), and somehow I need to talk my Grandma out of this shower idea. Aaaaaggghhhhh
EDIT: PS, is late November too late to send save the dates for a June wedding? We won’t have our engagement pictures until then and I was hoping to do the cheesy magnet thing