It seems like so many weddings are just a string of performances that bride and groom are putting on for their audience (ahem, guests). Of course I want our ceremony to be meaningful, but I also don’t want it to feel like our officiant or us or our loved ones are reading from a script and making rehearsed movements and standing up straight positioned at the right angle, because you know, that’s what people do. Like why are we walking so slowly down this aisle? Who do I look at? It’s weird to make eye contact with people, but also weird to avoid eye contact. Do I smile the whole time? I feel like I’m expected to smile the whole time (it’s my wedding day!!), but most likely I would just look uncomfortable that everyone is staring at me? Can you tell I don’t like being the center of attention?
When people talk about non-traditional ceremonies, it seems like mostly they just mean non-religious, and planting a tree instead of a unity candle or something. But I wanna know has anyone totally changed up the feel of the ceremony? For example, I’ve seen glimpses of a hippie couple that did their vows/ceremony surrounded by all of their guests in a big circle. Or a couple that had one of their good friends be more like an MC rather than an officiant. Like guests were all in a cocktail hour, and MC just tink tinked on a glass to call people to attention, and had the couple come up front for some vows and kind words. This feels so much more ME.
So Weddit, TELL ME HOW YOU’VE MIXED IT UP!! (For a little context, FH and I are getting married in a warehouse-y coffee shop/roastery. 80ish guests. Cocktail reception and apps buffet style. Casual.) Thank you!
EDIT: We are not planning to have a true wedding party, but would love for a handful of friends, plus parents, to sort of stand up with us/surround us at some point. Just think it’s weird for them to stand up there, hands folded, during the whole ceremony staring at us. Even if it’s only like 15 min.